He and his parents ambled off the plane. It was a little tense form the outset, but it didn’t stop him from wanting a hot dog.
When he said as much his parents looked at him like he was crazy. They were both a little shell-shocked, being in America for the first time, tired from the 14 hour flight. They didn’t answer and so he went ahead and took that as a yes.
The seating in the hot dog place was hard; yellow, orange and red plastic. He ran his left hand over the surface as he cocked his head and ate the hot dog out of his right. His parents sat there with doughy eyes, trying to take it all in.
There was a steamy hot dog smell. He wondered if it was a fake smell they pumped out to attract more customers. He once saw a news program that talked about that sort of thing. He hadn’t eaten a good American hot dog since he’d studied in America about five years before. He bit into the casing. It snapped.
His parents had, despite all their money, never been outside of Korea. His father had flown to Seoul a few times, but his mother had never been on a plane. Now, here they were, having flown half way around the world to meet their son’s soon-to-be wife for the first time. It was a little surreal for all of them, but his parents in particular.
He pushed the end of the hot dog in his mouth. Not bad. Not as good as the ones in New York. Papaya King. He stared at his mustard dotted fingers. Thinking of Papaya King made him want to order another hot dog right then. He licked the mustard off his fingers with loud smacks.
“I thought you told us to not make noises when we ate,” his father said in Korean.
He ignored the comment.
They gathered their luggage and made for the exit. The car service would be waiting there.
“You know the name of the person who’s picking us up?” his father asked. He sounded stern, like he expected that his son hadn’t thought about it.
He looked at his father and tired to not grimace. Of course he knew. He had to get used to this. He would be fielding similar questions during the entire trip. He spoke English, his parents didn’t. They weren’t all that happy to be in America in the first place. He would have act as the guide, translator, doctor, arbiter, and probably as some kind of food tester.
But of course he was a little nervous too, even though he’d been to the U.S. before.
He stood and waited with his back to the large automatic doors that led into America. He had mixed feelings in returning to the United States. He watched his parents awkwardly gesture their way through customs. The air behind him changed each time the doors opened and closed.
His reasons for coming to America for the second time were so different than the first he may as well have been going to another country altogether. The first time he was so in awe of America. Even scared. America-and every bit the story of someone who goes there for the first time. Scary, exhilarating, mesmerizing.
But this time he was more inclined to go about his business and get back to Korea. It wasn’t that he didn’t like America. He just liked Korea better.
He’d left America a few months after Sept. 11. The Sept. 11. He’d been studying English for over a year at Hostos Community College in the Bronx. It had been kind of a joke, really. He wanted to live in New York City because he liked the New York Yankees. His grades weren’t bad but not good enough to go to the University of New York or Colombia. Not even Fordham. So he found the program at Hostos. His parents had a lot of money so away he went.
He lived in Brooklyn and commuted to the Bronx every morning. He loved the New York subway. The subway in Busan was nicer. Newer. Cleaner. But people didn’t exist on Korean subways. Even when the subway was crowded it was quiet. But the New York subway was alive. It was part of his dream. The way it roared and shook through tunnels. The way it smelled like heat and sweat. They way everyone sat on it like they’d been beaten over the head by life. All together at once.
On Sept. 11 he had been on the A train, just 15 minutes or so beyond the World Trade Center subway station. Like every other day he’d change from the A to the D train, get off at Yankee Stadium and backtrack a half mile to the college. He didn’t want to miss a single chance to savor the stadium so he didn’t mind the extra walk.
By the time he got to school the first plane had hit. It was strange, but not totally out of context. He was in the cafeteria getting his usual bagel. There wasn’t a TV, just a radio. The cooks were chatting about what had happened and compared it to the day before when a Frenchman was hung suspended on the torch of the Statue of Liberty due to an errant parachute stunt. They were snickering about it, but then a woman ran into the cafeteria screaming “another plane hit the trade center!” Then it all became like a dream.
When he got back to Brooklyn late that afternoon his apartment was covered in ash. He’d left the window open. His mother had called 15 times. She demanded he come back to Korea immediately.
He had already been on borrowed time. His parents agreed he could go for a year, but he’d made up some story about having to finish work on a thesis and having to stay six extra months. Neither of his parents had much idea of education beyond high school, so they believed him. But Sept. 11 pushed his mom over the edge.
He had a girlfriend in New York. His first girlfriend. Until that point he’d only slept with two women, both prostitutes, both mandated and paid for by the military. One before he started basic training. The other at the end.
His girlfriend was American. A black girl from Washington Heights named Kali. Her personality was much stronger than what he’d been used to back home. She never held back her opinions or steered away from confrontation. For better and for worse. But he liked it. She’d had a tough upbringing. Poor. Her father hadn’t been around her whole life and her mom worked as a janitor at an elementary school to make ends meet.
He marveled how different Kali was from Korean women. It was like he’d come upon an entirely different species of the human race. He began to think Korean women were too meek. Submissive. Kali ordered him around in the way he ordered her around. It was an even match. They were harmonious.
One time, lying on the bed in Kali’s apartment he told her Korean women liked to be treated like princesses.
“I want to be your princess,” she said.
So she became his “African Princess.” And he her “Asian Prince.”
Leaving New York itself was hard, but after 9/11 the city had turned into a one big red, white and blue paraphernalia sale. Every street corner. That wore on him. And once the country invaded Afghanistan and was staring down Iraq, he’d had enough of that aspect of America. He’d been sympathetic at first, but soon, he wasn’t. American itself became easy to leave.
But leaving Kali was a different story. It wasn’t a pretty sight, the two of them-tears streaming down their faces at JFK. Slowly backing away from each other. The taste of his last Papaya King still in his mouth.
They kept in touch for a while, but it was difficult. He was not only still in love with Kali, but he started to realize the idea of finding a Korean woman that had an ounce of Kali’s strength and will would be next to impossible.
In the end Kali sent him an email begging him to never contact her again. After that it was hard for him to know what love was or wasn’t. He wasn’t sure he could ever completely get over Kali.
The sign said “The Kims” in big blue letters.
“Even I can read that,” his father said testily, raising his hand to signal the driver.
He glanced over at his father. “You said you couldn’t speak English,” he said. His father snarled, “Well it’s not like I haven’t been dealing with Americans 25 years.”
He snickered at the irony of what his father had said. Not being able to speak English was a point of pride for his father. Especially the more money he had accumulated. His father had always bragged about that.
His father had started a ship cleaning business during the 1970s. Most of his customers were American shipping companies. He spoke no English, but the Americans thought he was cute. He bowed a lot, worked 12 hours a day/7 days a week. As his father was fond of saying, “those were the days of the `Made in Korea’ sticker.” The point being it was after the days of the “Made in Japan” stickers, and prior to the “Made in China” era.
The driver put their bags in the trunk and slammed it shut. Even though they’d hired a driver he had printed out directions before they’d left Korea. He wanted to know the route. Just in case. They started in the direction of the San Mateo Bridge.
“Are we going over the famous bridge?” his father asked.
“No, not the Golden Gate Bridge?”
“I don’t mean the Golden Bridge,” his father snapped. “The other one. The one that goes to Oakland.”
He gave his father a surprised stare out of the corner of his eye. “How do you know about that bridge?”
“Oakland is a big port city…a lot of the boats I’ve dealt with go directly to Oakland. Aren’t we going near Oakland?”
“I think it’s a little close to Oakland.”
“Well then where are we going?” He said impatiently.
“Livermore.”
His father squinted his eyes. “Where is that? I’ve never heard of it.”
“It’s near Oakland,” he said, not really wanting to discuss it further. Partly because he didn’t really know anything about Livermore, besides the name.
They drove onto the San Mateo Bridge.
“This is the bridge we’re going to,” he said out of the corner of his mouth.
He watched his father’s reaction in the mirror, precisely hoping there’d be no reaction.
“This is a bridge?” his father said. “This is a freeway. They call this a bridge?”
Even though his father had at last agreed to his marrying an American, he knew he’d have to endure plenty of his sarcastic and petty comments during the trip.
He couldn’t say his father disliked America. But as it is for many Koreans, including his father, America is the benchmark. The standard of opulence. But in his father’s case, he’d won. Not only had he made a lot of money from America, he’d done it on his terms. On his soil to boot. His father didn’t see what all the fuss was about. Why would his son want to study in America? They’d already agreed he’d take over his father’s business when the time came. He obviously didn’t need to speak English for that. What could come from going to America, other than getting shot or bombed by crazy religious people?
They finished crossing the bridge. There was a sign for Livermore. For the first time since they got off the plane he felt a twinge of nervousness. In his worry and concern about his parents, specifically his father’s bad attitude, he’d temporarily forgotten why they’d come to America in the first place.
He’d hoped that in returning to Korea, such a different world, that he’d be able to forget Kali. He was prepared follow the path. Return home, start working at his father’s company, get married to a Korean, and start a family. As the only child, the only son, there wasn’t much wiggle room in that idea. By going to New York, basically for kicks, basically so he could lurk around Yankee Stadium, he’d rocked the boat as it was.
But there was no erasing Kali from his mind, no matter how much he tried. Even though he’d managed to finish his military service without a smoking habit, he’d started when he returned to Korea. He was trying to reduce his emotion. Most nights he stayed up into the morning hours, either chatting with Kali or writing emails once they’d finished chatting. He was drinking a lot. He’d wake up in the early afternoon with his head on his computer desk; three empty bottles of soju at his right, an empty cigarette pack on his left.
He didn’t dare mention Kali to his parents. There would be no sympathy for his heartache. An American woman? Someone in America? His parent’s marriage had been arranged. For them love could become a byproduct of marriage. Mostly though, it was a business arrangement between two families. The only thing his father had ever said on the subject was: “You ought to marry an elementary school teacher. Elementary school teachers have a lot of patience with children.”
In any event, love certainly wasn’t something you flew over oceans to get. Especially when there was a family business he needed to learn how to run.
But try as he did Kali remained in his thoughts at all times. Even though he was back in Korea he kept his watch set to New York time. He spent more time thinking about what Kali was doing at whatever moment than what he himself did during the day.
Kali was also still in love with him. For a time she’d entertained the idea of moving to Asia to teach English (his idea). But she needed a bachelor’s degree and she’d only done a two year program at Hostos. He begged her to come anyway, that his family had enough money that she wouldn’t even have to think about working. For a couple days Kali had even considered the offer. She knew nothing about Asia, but love was love. She wanted to follow her heart.
But in the end there was her mother. Still a single woman, still working as a janitor to care for Kali and her two brothers. When she thought about it that way; leaving her mother for a man, she couldn’t do it. Once she’d asked herself this question she knew it was finally over. Kali finally sent him an email:
For the both of us, please do not contact me any more. We both know this cannot work. Please do not ever send me no emails any more. I wish you the best of luck in life. You will make some one very happy some day. But we need to end this finaly.
Kali
While he had some inclination to fly to New York, show up at Kali’s apartment door, and beg her to come to Korea, he knew she was right. Kali had finally sent the email that needed to be sent. He had to let her go.
He drew himself a schedule. A life plan. He’d endure the heartbreak for a few weeks, then start asking friends to introduce him to single Korean women. He’d date around for a while, find an adequate mother for his children, become more familiar with his father’s business, and in three or four years he’d be ready to take both the business and a wife. He’d get married, move into a new apartment with is parents, and the rest would be history.
He stared out the window. They’d arrived in Livermore. It made him reminisce a little about when he’d arrived in New York for the first time. The way he pressed his face to the window in the airplane, just like people did in the movies. The foreigner, coming to America for the first time; all the hope and promise that arrives along with them.
But his purpose this time was completely different, so there was little to get excited about. It wasn’t that America itself had lost its allure. It was that his purpose had totally changed. He had already laid out his life plan and his new American wife was a smaller part of that than the experience he’d desired the first time he’d come. In a way it was a hindrance. Not his future wife, but the process. It slowed his progress. He was eager to get it over with and go back to Korea. He had other responsibilities, most of them related to his father’s company.
Besides that it was clear that Livermore was an entirely different place from New York. It was quiet. A little like the countryside in Korea, which he was never all that fond of. He’d expected Livermore to be like to San Francisco, which he had presumed was similar to New York City. That said he didn’t make any effort to actually see San Francisco. But he’d seen pictures. Steep hills with pretty colorful houses. Cable cars. It looked ok.
But Livermore was seemingly not ok. It was quiet. As the car drove through town there were few signs of life. A handful of cars, usually driving in or out of a fast food restaurant or an all-purpose store parking lot. The cars in Livermore were like nothing he’d ever seen. They looked like tanks with tinted windows. They drove with little to no sound, like ghosts. There were no colorful houses like he’d imagined. Mostly 2 and 3 story apartment buildings that looked like they’d been built in the 80s.
“Will we meet your wife tonight?” his father asked from the back seat.
“No, tomorrow morning.”
The feeling of arriving in a new country had disoriented his parents. But the tone of his father’s voice at that moment was just another unpleasant reminder of what he’d been enduring for weeks.
At first his father had steadfastly refused the idea. His one and only son was not about to marry a non-Korean. Why? Because he was Korean. Because Koreans marry other Koreans. Why? Because Koreans understand Koreans in a way that other races don’t. How? Because the Koreans are a special race. Because they have been one way for nearly 5,000 years. Because they’ve maintained a special sense of community in ways that other countries can’t imagine.
The arguments had gone on and on. Initially his father gave him an unlimited supply of money. New suits, flowers, gifts, a car. Whatever it might take to woo the right Korean woman. Whatever his son, it was his. When that hadn’t worked his father instructed his mother to take him to the most expensive fortune tellers, the highest level matchmakers. Again, no expense was spared.
But once he finally did get over Kali, he was left with the desire to be with someone like Kali. But in doing this he, in a sense, gave on his idea of true love. Love became something that was more an object and less a feeling. He could have it if he wanted it. It was only a matter of what form it would take when he seized it. Eventually he realized the form should be a black American woman, like Kali.
He didn’t question his logic. He ended the conversation there. He was so convinced in his logic he was able to combat his father using it. In the end, his father had to yield. The problem wasn’t going away. He couldn’t physically force his son to marry a Korean, though he’d practically tried. He threatened him with exile from the family. Said he’d prevent him from taking over the company. Even challenging him to a fist fight. None of it worked.
The car turned into the hotel parking lot. It was called The Riviera, and had large orange arches and a fountain in the middle of the roundabout. They stepped out of the car. While the first thing they heard was the cool sounds of the fountain splashing, they were soon overtaken by the brutality of the heat. It was like they’d stepped into an oven. His mother started coughing and gasping for air. She grabbed a hold of her husband’s arm. In a panic he looked for the path to the hotel lobby. He knew he had to get his poor mother inside where there was air-conditioning. He looked over in her direction, it was then he saw his father’s piercing stare.
During the 1980s Korea changed its exporting from manufactured goods to heavy industry; materials, chemicals, things of that nature. The Korean economy started to explode. For the first time ordinary citizens were became “Lightning Rich.”
His father was one of these people. At the time he was still an elementary school child, so it was hard for him to comprehend what the increased wealth meant for him and his life. All he knew is that his father started bringing home rolls of unused “made in Korea” stickers.
These stickers were his favorite toy. He put them on everything in their apartment. His shirts, oranges, the floor, the toilet seat. The joke never got old. One day he put a whole roll on his own body. He stripped off his shirt and covered his arms and face. His mother helped him cover his back. Then he hid behind the door and waited for his father to come home. When his father came home from work he jumped out from behind front door screaming “I was made in Korea!”
He’d saved some of the rolls of stickers and every few years he’d bring one out when people least expected it. He’d brought one to Livermore. He wasn’t sure if the mood was right, but as they unpacked their things at the Riviera he tossed a roll onto the bed. At first his parents just stared at it. The mood had been pretty tense since they’d left Korea, but slowly their faces changed. His father burst into laughter. His mother started to get teary eyed.
He and his father started some horseplay, putting the stickers on one another. They chased each other around the room. At first they were just trying to put a sticker on the other’s body, but eventually it got more aggressive, and they were trying to slap them on each other’s foreheads.
“Hey!” his father yelled, stamping his foot on the ground. “Get over here!”
He pretended to relent. Calmly walking over to his father, as if to allow him a free chance. But just as his father started to make a move he dodged his hands and planted a sticker square on his forehead.
“Woooo!” he called out.
His father was nearly 60, but very healthy and strong. His father had never eaten a single food product made of any kind of bread. Only rice. He’d never even eaten a piece of pizza, which had always been unfortunate since he and his mom both liked pizza.
They ran around the hotel room some more. Finally his father grabbed a hold of his arm and smacked a sticker right on to his left cheek. It made a loud slapping noise. His mother gasped.
It hurt like hell. But he had the foresight to see the situation could go one of two ways. He could take it personally and get angry at his father, or he could let it slide.
He smiled at his father and said, “good one,” and nodded his head laughing a little.
They both flopped down on the couch, trying to catch their wind. After a minute or two the only sounds in the room were their slowing breaths and the hum of the air-conditioner.
His father looked over at him.
“You ready for all this?” His father threw his hand in the air in a way that made it clear he was talking about the marriage, not the sticker game.
He looked over at his father. He could still feel the sticker still on his throbbing cheek.
“I think so.”
His father nodded.
“So what do you need to do? Call her? Just show up at her home tomorrow?”
He nodded. “We’ll go there tomorrow,” he swallowed. “I have the address. We can take a taxi.”
His father smiled and nodded.
“You brought the gifts, right?” The gifts had been a point of contention. That’s why he asked his father about them now since the mood appeared to be getting lighter.
His father leaned on the arm of the chair and turned around, “Honey, you packed the gifts, right?”
His mother nodded from across the room.
“I guess you’ll be translating for all of us tomorrow, huh Mr. English speaker?”
He nodded his head.
“You know, I don’t think I’ve even seen your wife’s photo. Do you think you could show me?”
He looked at his father and smiled. It felt like a big moment. Like a couple of bears that had been fighting, had finally tired themselves out and had sat down to share a freshly caught salmon. He wanted to jump into his father’s arms like a little boy and hug him with all his strength. His father had accepted his choice. There wasn’t much more in life he could have asked for right then.
“There’re a bunch of pictures online,” he said grinning. He couldn’t help it. “I saw a computer downstairs. Why don’t we go take a look?”
In the hotel lobby there was a computer with a sign that said “Internet” in big, black, block letters that had been colored by hand. It looked like someone had spent a long time on it.
His father sat down while he retrieved a second chair.
“I bet she’s very beautiful,” his father said, starting to glow.
He shook his head. He was trying to be humble, but was really enjoying the moment. He tried to not smile, but he wanted to burst into giddy laughter.
He punched the address and the page came up.
“American Brides,” his father read out loud in English.
“You should translate tomorrow,” he said playfully.
His father shook his head and stared at the screen.
He logged into his account explaining things as he did it. “This is my login. See…” he started, “there are a lot of women on here that are looking for husbands in other countries.”
His father leaned forward and listened intently.
“So, this is my account. And what I did is signed up with this company, and then I can email all the women that have signed up with the same company.”
“Do you know anything about the company?”
“Well, it seems pretty good. It’s the biggest. They had the best looking Web site.”
His father nodded.
“First they narrow the women down to what you want. So you see here I put in an age range, height, weight…”
“You didn’t pick a woman taller than you did you?” his father said a little nervously.
“No Dad, she’s a little shorter than me.”
They both laughed.
“The girl I picked was one of the women they originally said I matched really well with. So once you narrow it down you just start emailing each other. The rest is history, really. You email, talk on the phone, and if it goes well….well, here we are.”
His father looked like he was deep in thought. “What is she like?” he said, “The woman you’re going to marry?”
“Well, she’s not actually from Livermore. She’s originally from the south of the United States. Do you remember the big typhoon in the United States a couple years ago? The one in the south where a lot of people died?”
“The Tsunami.”
“No, it wasn’t a Tsunami, that was further south, near Indonesia. This was in America… they knew about it, but a lot of people didn’t leave. And there were all kinds of problems. People blamed the government…”
“Oh, yeah. I remember that. She was in that?”
“Right. Her family lost their house in…I forget where exactly. What’s that city…New something..”
“New York?”
“No, not New York. That’s where I lived before, that’s far north.”
“Son, I don’t know places in America. I’ve heard of New York and Oakland but that’s about it.”
He was a little nervous when he did it, but he finally he clicked on Shaunika’s profile. The page opened up. Her picture was right there, front and center.
“That’s her father. This is the woman I’m going to marry and bring home to Korea.”
His father leaned forward as much as he could, then he craned his neck to get himself even a little closer. His eyes zeroed in on the picture and seemed to take it all in.
It was quiet for about 10 seconds. But then, just as he started to get more nervous, a smile started to across his father’s face.
As his father smiled he could feel a warmness making its way through his body.
His father sat up and put his arm around his son.
“Good job son.”